She walks by and arches her back in hopes of attracting attention.
The other lays down, coyly airs her towel, beach wrap still hugging her body and eventually places herself in the sand with ease, cautious of exposing her skin to the dozens around her.
I lay on the beach chair, breasts protruding from a triangle bikini too small for me, but not small enough for my awkward tan lines.
Who determined one of the three of us was wrong? Who decided we were too much or too little?
Many would argue no one. No one determined what our worth compared to the next was.
Then again, many would argue the opposite.
Whether I argue or not is not what gets under my skin.
What makes me unsettled at 3pm on a 85 degree day on the cape is whether or not the idea of insecurity is valid or straight up bullshit.
The idea one’s muscle gain or another’s weight loss is possible of triggering another woman? Or another man for that matter.
I don’t think it will ever make sense to me. The way we look at women with adoration and appreciation because to be frank, the female body is capable of badass things outside of giving birth to children. It will forever amaze me. It should bewilder anyone. Particularly those without a birth canal. But, what amazes me even more is the constant fear I have of other women. I am asking, begging, and crying out for acceptance of my own female body when they themselves may not be able to show themselves that same love. I am in recovery from a disorder I should be over, but, cannot cross the threshold of acceptance because of an invisible boundary I do not know how to push pass.
When does it start and when does it end?
When does resilience begin and acceptance declare itself?
Call this what you want. A rant. A chance for me to air dirty laundry – though it could certainly get dirtier than this, nonsense thoughts strung together in a blog post. Or a case of the Sunday scaries.
Either way, just take a second to think about it.
Yesterday, I looked at my reflection in mirrors, glass windows, window shop reflections, and in the mirror of a whitecaps sea 64 times.
64 times I sought validation.
What is wrong with that?
Is it you?
Is it me?
Or, is it us?